Authenticity is overrated — choose consistency over confession

I’m writing this because “be authentic” is sending too many brilliant women down the wrong road.

It sounds empowering. In practice, it often turns into oversharing and under-positioning. Warm posts, kind hearts … and a Brand that doesn’t convert.

I want you to keep your humanity and win more of the right work. That shift starts with clarity, not confession.

I’ve spent two decades turning Brands into strategic assets that connect, convert and grow. And I see the same pattern on repeat: a smart leader dilutes her edge to seem relatable. Her content zigzags from life updates to leadership quotes to the occasional client win. Her bio lists roles, not results. Opportunities don’t land — not because she isn’t capable, but because her signal isn’t clear.

Here’s the truth I’ve learned the hard way: clarity and conviction cut through noise. Be different — but not for the sake of being different. Be different because you’re willing to stand for something specific.

“Too much” is usually the premium

The thing you’ve been told is “too much” — too bold, too direct, too ambitious — is often the exact thing people pay a premium for.

Too bold becomes decisive.

Too direct becomes dependable.

Too ambitious becomes a result others can hitch to.

Your job isn’t to sand down your edge. Your job is to own it and express it strategically.

What I mean by Brandality

People ask me about Brandality because it’s not a textbook word.

Brandality is the felt experience of your Brand in the market — the way people experience you and your promise online or in the room. It’s not your entire personality on display. It’s not a mood board. It’s not just Visual Identity.

It’s your signal.

Here’s the simplest way to pressure test your Brandality:

Promise: the one-line result you reliably deliver — and for whom

Proof: recent, concrete receipts that show you keep that promise

Pattern: the same promise and proof reinforced everywhere.

If a stranger can’t identify those three things quickly, your Brandality needs tightening.

And remember this: your Brand is not your role — it’s your impact.

Authentic ≠ transparent

You can be real without handing over your diary.

Authenticity matters … but it isn’t a strategy. Consistency is.

Consistency builds trust because it removes guesswork. People know what you stand for, how you work, and what promise you keep.

When I say alignment, I mean your values, vision and voice pulling in the same direction.

That alignment sits inside what I call the Credibility Triangle:

Values → Value Proposition → Visible Proof

Here’s what that looked like for one of my clients (a Marketing and Mindset Mentor):

Voice: Plain-English, no-fluff marketing that swaps overwhelm for clarity. Friendly, supportive, practical (and a little cheeky) so small business owners feel safe, empowered and in control.

Value Proposition: I help values-driven small business owners move from feast-or-famine to steady momentum with simple, step-by-step plans, tools and support they can action in minutes — not months.

Visible Proof: Increased qualified enquiries by 42% and cut content creation time by 30% in 12 weeks.

Now here’s the important part: you repeat that triangle until it sticks.

It’s not repetitive. It’s recognisable.

I often say: Brand is the most valuable asset you own. Stop waiting to be seen.

A personal moment — choosing alignment over approval

I learned this early. I started freelancing at twenty because I believed I could do better. But I also put peers on pedestals and second-guessed myself more than I care to admit.

What shifted everything was choosing alignment over approval. Leading with character, then competence. Doing the one thing only I could do: showing up consistently with a different point of view and a promise I could keep.

I stopped calling myself the CEO of a one-woman business. I stopped hiding behind letters after my name. And I started owning the truth: I was young, bold, savvy — and I knew my craft.

That’s when I stopped trying to be liked by everyone and started being trusted by the right people.

Make the shift this week

If you want to build a premium Personal Brand without sliding into confession culture, start here.

1) Rewrite your headline from role to result

Weak: “Communications consultant in finance. Passionate about storytelling.”Strong: “I help asset managers win mandates and lower cost of capital with credible investor narratives.”

2) Choose three message pillars and stick with them for 90 days

Example pillars: on-time delivery, reputation equity, proof-led decisions.Use them to braid your posts, talks and media. Same message — sharper stories.

3) Publish “promise + proof” on purpose

Template: “We promised X. Here’s the result Y. One decision that moved the needle: Z.”Evidence isn’t bragging. It’s a service to future clients who need to decide quickly.

4) Set a cadence you can keep in busy seasons

Weekly beats daily if it keeps you on message. Consistency compounds faster than frequency. Two to three posts a week is a strong starting point.

Do / Don’t (no fluff)

Do name the edge you’ve been told is “too much” and tie it to outcomes.

Don’t smudge it into vague “approachable leadership.”

Do collect proof like an asset class: one case study a month with a metric, quote and before/after.

Don’t let wins vanish into emails and DMs.

Do document your Brandality so your team can reinforce it everywhere.

Don’t reinvent your tone, topics and promise every week.

A quick story

A small-business marketing consultant showed up with a bit of everything — helpful tips, Canva mock-ups, family snaps, behind-the-scenes. Nothing wrong with it. It was simply unfocused.

We kept the humanity and added intention.

She introduced a weekly rhythm: one promise, one proof. 

Every Monday, one sentence on the result she stands for (“I help small business owners move from marketing limbo to a clear, doable plan”) and one receipt from the week (a before/after, a quote, or a metric).

By month two, saves were up. DMs shifted from “Love this!” to “Can we book a chat?” And she saw a 30% lift in booked consults within 90 days.

Same person. Sharper Brandality.

The point of all this

Not more content. Not a shinier palette.

A Brand that carries your reputation into the room and buys you trust — and better terms — before you speak.

When values, vision and voice align, your Brand stops being a costume and starts being your operating system. It becomes easier to say yes, easier to say no, and easier for the right people to find you.

Own your edge. Choose consistency over confession. Build a promise people can rely on — then keep it.

That’s how women move from visible to credible … and from credible to in demand.

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